One of the most frequently asked questions in my life is “why are you still single?” This question is beyond irritating, but each time I answer it honestly and sincerely. So, with hopes to rid the possibility of it being asked in the future, here is the answer.
For starters, it’s not like the possibilities aren’t there. When they say “there are plenty of fish in the sea,” they really mean it. I have a ton of messages and phone numbers that I don’t respond to. It’s not that I’m ignoring them, well I guess I kind of am. That’s because the statement “there are plenty of fish in the sea” is correct, but how many are the ‘right’ fish in the sea. That’s the catch. I’ve been divorced once already. I don’t need anymore wrong fish.
There are so many people out there, but not everyone of those people is the right person. You see, I see my self as an adult, but not just any adult. I’ve got everything on my end figured out. I know what paths I want to take, and I know where I want to go with my life. Yes, of course I leave room for a wrench to be thrown into the mix and the possibility for things to change. That’s life, so you always have to prepare for it.
I guess you can say that I’m screening everyone. I’m doing so until the ‘right’ fish comes along.
I’m talking fish that has their stuff together like me, if not better. I understand that I could be waiting forever. To be honest, it sucks, but I am willing to wait. That’s because I’m happy. I’m happy where I am in my life, I’m happy with where I’m going, and I’m happy with myself.
In my mind, that’s the best place to be. After all, you can’t be happy with someone else if you’re not happy with yourself. So I’m not really searching and I’m not really waiting. I’m enjoying life, and one day maybe things will change.
I hope that answers your question, and I hope it prevents the question in the future… probably not.
Have a good one!